FOR THE NEWCOMER
By making the decision to search for a solution you have taken an important step on your behalf. On this website you will find a way to get in touch with other sober recovered sex addicts who can help you find freedom from your addictive sexual behavior.
WHY THE NAME?
Our group's name comes from our recovery literature which tells us that an emotional appeal rarely leads to long-term success in recovery. Our experience demonstrates that a message and program that can interest and hold a sex addict must have depth and weight.
Before we came to this group we had tried various recovery methods. These approaches, too numerous to list, occasionally awarded us short periods of sobriety. This seeming success was inevitably followed by yet another binge or spree and further descent into the incomprehensible demoralization of our addictive behavior. In SAA, and in this group, we discovered a program that has real meaning and, more importantly, a way of life which brought us real and lasting change.
How Do I Know If I'm A Sex Addict?
Take our free sex addiction test. Find out in only 2 simple questions if you are sexually addicted.
What If I'm Addicted To Love, Relationships,
Or Another Specific Sexual Behavior?
Before we reached out for help, many of us were unsure if SAA was right for us. Some of us were confused because our primary addiction was not exactly sex. We have experienced a vast array of addictive sexual behaviors including but not limited to pornography, masturbation, strip clubs, webcams, erotic literature, lust/love for other people, fetishes, etc.
Let’s try to make sense of this. In our program, we frequently use the term “addictive sexual behaviors” to describe the substance that we’re addicted to. A better name for our group might be Sexual Addicts Anonymous as not everyone in our group is addicted to what we commonly classify as “sex.” If you are suffering from any form of addictive sexual behavior (including love, relationships, etc.) then we want you to know that you are welcome in our group. We believe we have relevant experience, strength, and hope to share with you and a program that can work for you too.
I've Heard The Term "Recovering"
But What Does It Mean To Be "Recovered"?
We are not cured of sex addiction. Recovered, but not cured? That presents a conflict to some sex addicts. If we were cured then we would be able to act-out with our addictive sexual behaviors responsibly. No, we are not cured of sex addiction. The phenomenon of craving will always occur when we engage in these behaviors. It is a part of us that will be there for the rest of our lives, but we have been restored to sanity. And that was our problem. The main problem for the sex addict centers in the mind rather than the body.
The preservation of our sanity is utterly dependent on our commitment to this simple program of recovery. When we are spiritually connected we are able to do all sorts of things that sex addicts ought not be able to do. And when temptation does arise, we found we have been given the ability to react like we are about to hurt ourselves. This is our experience. This is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition. We are now sane where addictive sexual behavior is concerned. Consequently, we have recovered.
IS THIS GROUP REALLY ANONYMOUS?
The short answer is “yes.” You can be confident that we will protect the anonymity of every single member of our program. What is said during a meeting or between members in a private conversation is considered confidential. During your first meeting you will probably be asked to share just your first name with us, but even this is only a suggestion. Remember that you are in the company of other sex addicts who also value the principle of anonymity. We pledge to protect your identity. We ask that you protect ours.
ARE THERE ANY RULES Or Restrictions For Attending A Meeting?
The only requirement is a desire to stop your addictive sexual behaviors. Our experience is that sexual addiction does not discriminate on the basis of age, gender, race, sexual orientation, class, religion, or any other social classification—and neither do we.
When we went to our first SAA meeting, we were introduced to people who had recovered from this seemingly hopeless obsession. The same people who once suffered from this debilitating addiction were apparently living meaningful and purposeful lives. They were able to face the struggles of day-to-day life and remain sober!
It begged the question, “What did they do?”
Well, that’s why we are here. We want to show you what we did. We want to share our solution with you. Call us today 24/7 at our Helpline (413) 353-HELP and Google Voice will transfer you to one of our sober members and we will answer any questions you might have. Another way to get started is to show up at a meeting. We want to get you started on the path to recovery without the need to ever act out with addictive sexual behaviors again. We believe the most satisfactory years of our existence lie ahead. Thus we have found recovery, sobriety, and fellowship, and so will you.